If you learn every time you fail, then it was not a failure, it was a lesson! Hmm, Lesson, now that is a better word! I like 'lesson' and I can tell you now, I have had many, many lessons! I have even had a few 'duplicate' lessons as I did not learn the first time!
I posted a while back about a great opportunity that was given to me, and at first it all seemed fantastic, an opportunity I could not pass up! It was a huge, massive and very important 'lesson' I learned that I was not super woman, that I couldn't do everything. I learned that sometimes I have to come first and that it is okay for me to say no! I learned to embrace the lessons life was giving me!
One particular lesson that was very difficult, but extremely necessary, was an event I had planned! I contacted about 20 people and invited them all to my house for a fabulous evening, I had 10 people wanting to come and 6 confirmed that they would definitely be there! On the night 6 turned to 4 as 2 people were unable to make it!
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| Setting up for a fun, pampering evening! |
I wasn't put off, I was still very positive about the evening, I set everything up, got the nibbles out, opened up the lovely bottle of fizz I had bought, and waited! I waited some more! I waited for about 30-45 minutes and decided to call the 4 ladies who had not arrived. Not one single person answered my call, and not a single one showed up! An hour late, I was on the phone crying my eyes out! And I don't mean a little tear, I mean full on, huge lump in the throat, soaking wet face, chin quivering sobbing!
While talking on the phone, I realised a couple of things. firstly, that I wasn't actually crying because no one showed up. I was crying because I felt so worthless, that people could just pass me off and not even care enough about me to just send me a little text. Secondly, after the first blubbering, self pitying realisation, I then realised, the world had not stopped! It did not come to a grinding halt, and life as we know end! No, it carried on, like it is supposed to do!
Now, talk about a lesson, eh? So, what did I end up doing? I packed my stuff away, poured myself a big glass of the lovely fizzy stuff, and sat down with the nibbles, did I mention the nibbles were Mr Kipling French Fancies and Mini Battenbergs!!! YUM! I put on car crash TV (The Housewives of...) and thoroughly enjoyed myself! I had a chilled, relaxed evening. I regathered my energy, my positivity and now I am so grateful for that lesson. It has been incredibly valuable to me and not to mention necessary!
So, moving on from that, I decided to take it right the way back to basics! Back to the start. I started with me! I picked up my book, and began to read 10 pages! The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson. I did a bit of self development every single day. I took a step back and looked my my life. I decided that the Pre-School opportunity was not for me, not now any way. Although again, I did learn a lot of new things! Especially about myself.
I made a plan for my day, making sure that I did a little something everyday, that put me in a positive direction, and not just with my Arbonne business, but with my health, money, children, husband, house, every aspect of my life. Now that sounds like a lot, but it is surprisingly easy.
I have gone from 'Being Arbonne' through and though, eating, sleeping, drinking, breathing it, to a quivering mess, overloaded with stress, anxiety and fear of failing to being calm, doing little bits of everything, everyday. I am 'not' Arbonne, I am Emma, I am a fun, happy person who likes to help others and spend time with my family. I am abitious and always strive for a better future. I use Arbonne as a vehicle to ensure I remain all these things!
I have recently watched a few training videos, and put these in to practice. My business is moving in the right direction, I have somethng in my dairy every day, whether it is a one to one meeting, follow up, product event, Zoom conference or simply a 'text day' I make sure I do not over load my day and will limited myself to a maximum of 2 pieces of Arbonne activity a day. I also ensure I read every single morning, and do some form of training everyday.
Just recently I sat and decided to make my vision board, properly! I did sort of have one, but on my computer and to be honest, it wasn't great, but it was a start. I also have my affirmations that I say, out loud, everyday, several times a day. I even randomly tell them to my husband, who at first rolled his eyes.... Now he is working on his own vision board!!
Here is what I have, so far!
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